May I ask you a question and receive your honest-to-God, truthful answer?
Okay, well, here goes.
Do you ever find yourself consumed by anxiety?
When I speak of anxiety, I am talking about feeling nervous, uneasy, or even worrying about something that is about to happen or about how something will turn out.
Let me give you a real-life example. Imagine this….
Your seven-year-old daughter has never spent an entire weekend at her father’s home. From what you know about him and his family, parenting is not at the top of their list of priorities. They often leave the children unsupervised watching hours of television. They have no qualms about who they allow to babysit the children (if they even get a babysitter) who are supposed to be under their care. As long as the person is a member of the church or a friend from school or the neighborhood, the person gets a stamp of approval as a qualified caretaker.
If that is not enough, most of the adults in the family are extremely irresponsible and share a very weak moral and ethical code. They have multiple children by multiple women or men—children of whom they cannot afford. They have difficulty maintaining employment for any extended period of time and their marriages (which are usually based upon their need to have someone more successful provide for them), do not last.
In a nutshell, they have mastered finding gullible, naïve, or vulnerable people to support them in their many endeavors and their lifestyle. Consequently, a need to alter their behavior has not been realized.
Ultimately, in your opinion, they are unfit to rear children. However, just recently, you were ordered by the judge to allow your daughter to spend every other weekend and some holidays with her father, who lives with his relatives.
You are devastated.
Every time you think about it, which is all of the time, your heart beats fast, your chest tightens, your head aches, and your mind races.
Each moment that you are awake, you play out hypothetical scenarios in your mind that could occur while your child is there—scenarios that would be detrimental to her mindset and her well-being. Your mother, who was the director of the Department of Social Services (DSS), has shared with you the horror stories that come from homes such as these. As a result, you cannot find anything positive about this situation, so your mind is plagued with worry and uneasiness, and more and more of the same.
You literally feel like you might just go crazy thinking about this situation and you do not know how you will ever make it through. You do not sleep well. You do not eat well–either you eat too much or not a enough. You may even experience nervous tics (like eye blinking, throat clearing, toes crunching, or abdominal tensing).
This is what I mean by anxiety.
So, do you ever find yourself consumed with anxiety? When I say consumed, I mean that you experience these feelings on a regular basis or even a daily basis as it relates to the various events or circumstances in your life.
If so, you are not alone.
Millions and millions of people experience anxiety to the point where it impedes upon the quality of their day, the quality of their mindset, the quality of their life.
In fact, according to Beverly D. Flaxington in Self-Talk for a Calmer You, “….20-30 percent of the population suffers from some form of anxiety at some point in our adult lives (p. 17).”
If that is the case, there are millions of us (Believers) who are probably challenged when it comes to fulfilling God’s purpose for our lives because we are swimming in a pool of anxiety and we have not mastered the skills of getting out of the water, drying off, and getting back to life on dry ground.
2014 is the year that you can conquer these feelings and claim victory over them. Conquer may seem like a strong word, but it is quite fitting. It means to take control of by force. So, yes, you are going to conquer anxiety starting this year.
You do know that you are going to have trouble in this world, right?
Jesus forewarned you of this in John 16:33. But, that is okay, because He assured you that He has overcome the world and since He lives in you (Galatians 2:20), the trouble that is in the world should not overwhelm you and cause you to be anxious.
In fact, being anxious is contrary to how you should respond to anything according to Philippians 4:6: Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. (New International Version)
The Books That Transform LTVD Experience
With that being said, I am inviting you to join me in a study of a strategy-filled book that I mentioned earlier—Self -Talk for a Calmer You: Learn How to Use Positive Self-Talk to Control Anxiety and Live a Happier, More Relaxed Life.
I have had the book since last September and it has been such a blessing to me. Therefore, there has been a tug on my heart to not just interview Beverly D. Flaxington on Books That Transform, but to facilitate an incredible learning experience using her book as the guide for nine straight weeks.
So, on Wednesday, January 22nd, I am inviting you to join me on the new Books That Transform LTVD Experience from 12-12:30 p.m. LTVD stands for Learning Through Virtual Discussion™ which is a name I coined for the virtual process of Learning Through Discussion that was created by William Fawcett Hill in the 1960’s. It is the most thought-provoking, life-changing way to delve into any kind of content that you are reading as it helps you make personal connections that are applicable to your real life and forces you to examine your thinking as it relates to any of the principles that are shared.
Believe me. You will enjoy this process, because you will get a chance to go through each and every chapter with the support of at least one person….Me. But, even still, you will enjoy it even more, as a Believer, because you will see how the powerful techniques have a direct correlation to the Scripture and how we are challenged to “be” in this trouble-filled world.
It will be invigorating! It will be challenging! It will be well worth it!
- Purchase the book at Barnes and Noble or Amazon.
- Commit to 20-30 minutes per day for prayer and study time.
- Join the book study mailing list here so that you can receive the show’s recording as well as any updates. http://archive.aweber.com/firstblogcap/ET71X
- Participate in the discussion every Wednesday at noon from January 22nd through March 17th by calling in to 347-327-9688.(Save the number in your phone. ) You may also join us live at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/booksthattransform.
- Finally, subscribe to the show on Blog Talk Radio to get reminders emailed to you when we are about to go on the air.
Looking forward to taking this journey with you on the Books That Transform LTVD Experience where books become tools of transformation for purpose-driven conversation.
For more information about Self Talk for a Calmer You, visit http://www.selftalkforacalmeryou.com/