The Motion Picture of My Life
If God were to play a movie of my life from the very first day until right now, I am quite sure that I would be speechless. Although, I have never been a wild child, I have done some things that I would not want to see in motion picture and I have made some choices that I would not want to make again.
I have also had some horrific things happen to me as a result of choosing the wrong types of people to call friends or companions. And, I have been betrayed by people I trusted, dearly.
About ten years ago, one of my good friends said to me once, “Kellie, I do not need to watch the soap operas because I just live vicariously through your life and that is enough drama for me.”
We both laughed in agreement, but I knew that was really sad. I realized that I needed to make some changes and make them quickly.
I am sure I am not alone.
So, What About You?
As you are reading this, you are probably thinking of that embarrassing or shameful moment or two that you would not want the world to see on God’s big screen, either. Perhaps, there are personal things you are struggling with right now that you only discuss with God in “the secret place.”
You look back and wonder, “What in the world was I thinking?”
You actually participated in the act, made the decision, or even aligned yourself with an individual in a completely sober state. You were not “under the influence” of alcohol or any particular substance and now, you just can’t figure out how it all came to be.
It’s crazy, isn’t it?
With a sober, sane mind we can make some of the craziest, misguided decisions in the world and sometimes even after knowing we are forgiven for them, we have a hard time forgiving ourselves.
Today’s post is one that is meant to totally empower and inspire you—not that my other posts do not share that same sentiment, but this one, in particular is strategically written for those purposes.
Reasons We Make Certain Choices
If you are a person who has struggled with forgiving yourself for “errors” you have made or perhaps you find yourself still unable to make good decisions, read this post carefully.
Many of us often underestimate the power of influence—yes, influence.
Influence: the capacity or power of persons or things to be a compelling force on or produce effects on the actions, behavior, opinions, etc. of others. Dictionary.com
We believe that we have so much control over what we do and how we do it.
Well, on the surface that sounds real good and if you had said that to me maybe 10 years ago, I would agree with you wholeheartedly. But, today, I see things totally, differently.
I have to give credit to this different perspective to several factors—in-depth Bible study, personal development books, and even business and marketing books.
Let me explain.
An Enlightening Lesson from Stephen Pierce
In 2010, I purchased one of the most profound business books I have ever read, Secrets to Creating Wealth: Learn How to Create Outrageous Wealth with Only 2 Pennies to Rub Together by Stephen Pierce. I could not believe the enormous amount of insight and wisdom that was shared in just 83 pages of content.
One of the most striking, thought-provoking concepts that Stephen shared was the power of the Third Influence. In the book, Stephen, who has gone from a somewhat “disturbed” youth to a multi-millionaire internet marketing mogul, explains how discovering the power of the Third Influence changed his life.
According to Stephen,
“Third Influences come in and completely impact your thought processes and actions. Those Third Influences come from various sources. This is basically what we see with peer pressure in young people. Sometimes they don’t know how to make decisions for themselves, so they are easily persuaded and influenced by their peers.”
The Process of Influence
You see, influence is a process.
It begins with first being exposed to an idea, a concept. Sometimes, it requires multiple exposures, depending upon how much value the influencer has.
But, in essence what happens is that the mind that is being influenced begins to entertain the possibilities. Then, that same mind becomes persuaded by the idea.
Once the mind is persuaded, it begins to adopt the idea as its own. From then on, the mind is captivated and convinced and the actions follow suit.
This process can work for you or against you.
It can be positive or negative.
This is the thing:
Once you have been influenced, captivated, and convinced–you have surrendered your control. You have essentially handed your ability to think, independently, to someone or something. It is no longer you, but it is that “thing” or your trust, faith, and belief in that influencer that is controlling your decision-making process and consequently, your actions.
I could give you so many examples of this, but this post would be far too long. But, just think about the power of alcohol, drugs, cults, gangs, molesters, parents, cultures, fear, faith, and yes, your Lord and Savior Jesus Christ—all have the power to influence you and thereby control how you think and what you do.
You say, “I had a choice.” You look at others and say, “They had a choice.”
In some cases, you are right. But at the root of your choices and at the root of their choices is an influence. That influence has taken that person through a process, whether consciously or subconsciously, that has him or her convinced, right then, in that particular state. And as a result, decisions are made.
Choosing Who or What Will Influence You
But, the beauty of all of this is that at some point, by God’s grace and mercy, we are offered the opportunity to choose who will influence us. This is not always as easy as it seems, but it is possible.
We can choose the kinds of influential powers that seek to affect our thoughts and then our actions. We can choose to immerse ourselves in music, in teachings, in friendships, in mentors, and surroundings that edify us and transform our minds; and as a result, we can choose to live victoriously.
For some, choosing to be influenced by the positive is easy. For others, it is a major challenge.
So, your concern should not be whether you or anyone else had a choice to make when opportunities and risks presented themselves….your concern should be how powerful the decision-maker viewed the influence (i.e. debilitating family values, the enemy, an abusive spouse, a deceitful friend, a successful business leader, the Almighty God) that ultimately controlled the choices that were made.
Now For the Inspiration….
You do have control.
You can choose to live under THE INFLUENCE from this day forward. Let God infiltrate your thoughts and transform your mind through His Word, because he that owns your thoughts is the one who really makes your choices. Let Him be that compelling force that determines the decisions you make in not only your personal life, but in your business, as well.
And then, you will walk gracefully down the red carpet if and when the movie of your life ever debuts….
Before You Go
Think about this:
Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit of life set me free from the law of sin and death. For what the law was powerless to do in that it was weakened by the sinful nature, God did by sending his own Son in the likeness of sinful man to be a sin offering.
And so he condemned sin in sinful man, in order that the righteous requirements of the law might be fully met in us, who do not live according to the sinful nature but according to the Spirit. Those who live according to the sinful nature have their minds set on what that nature desires; but those who live in accordance with the Spirit have their minds set on what the Spirit desires. Romans 8:1-5 (NIV)