You work for someone else full-time but you are agitated because you know, that you know, that you know that you have been called to do something else. You have been called to be the CEO of your own business– a divine business that you did not necessarily choose but one that has been placed within you by God Himself. You have been called into entrepreneurship and the longer you are working in an environment that is contrary to that, the more frustrated you become.
Well, I have good news for you.
There is a way to emancipate yourself–a stress-free way. There is a way to plan your exit strategy and do what God has called you. Would you like to learn more about that?
Interview with Author, Evangelist, and Kingdom Trainer Ms. Ericka Jackson
Today, I interviewed Ericka D. Jackson, who is the author of When God Calls, Living God’s Purpose for Your Life.It was an incredible 55 minutes.
Listen now to find out:
The top 5 tips on how to plan the emancipation from the full-time J-O-B to living God’s purpose for your life on a full-time basis.
The components of a well-structured business plan and how often it should be updated
The top 3 marketing methods you should implement and why
How to view yourself as a shepherd and your target audience as your flock
What vision really is and how it impacts your daily decisions and ultimately whether you live out God’s purpose for your life
Despite some of our gains, women continue to make up a meager portion of senior leaders in government, business, and even those fields that are female dominated. Our low presence in top decision-making roles diminishes our contributions, gives us little say in corporate and societal directions, and reduces us to mere observers.
The only way for us to go get it is to ask for it. In other words, we must first change our mindset about what we deserve and then hone our negotiating and self-advocacy skills.
To get a better understanding of the negotiating process, I called upon women’s leadership author, speaker, and consultant, Selena Rezvani.
Who is Selena Rezvani?
Selena Rezvani’s goal is to propel more women into the top echelons of businesses — an objective she achieves through her writing, consulting, and speaking engagements. She is the co-owner of Women’s Roadmap, a consulting firm that elevates women into leadership through assessment, the design of gender-inclusive policies, and coaching. Outside of her consulting and coaching work, Selena promotes her message through training programs, teaching some of the brightest minds in business at eBay, Harvard, Accenture, Princeton, Duke, Johnson & Johnson, The Clinton Foundation, and many others.
She has been quoted, interviewed, and profiled by The Today Show, CareerBuilder, the Wall Street Journal, Forbes, ABC, and NBC. She is a regular commentator on NPR’s syndicated 51 Percent: The Women’s Perspective, blogs for Forbes.com and writes an award-winning column on women and leadership for The Washington Post. She is the author of the acclaimed career guidebooks PUSHBACK: How Smart Women Ask–and Stand Up–for What They Want (Jossey-Bass, 2012) and The Next Generation of Women Leaders: What You Need to Lead but Won’t Learn in Business School (Praeger, 2009).
Selena received her bachelor of science and master of social work degrees from New York University, and has an MBA from Johns Hopkins University, where she graduated first in her class. She lives near Philadelphia. For more information, visit: www.NextGenWomen.com or www.WomensRoadmap.com.
Listen to Our Discussion Now to Learn the Four-Step Model of Negotiation & The Importance of Self-Advocacy by Women in the 21st Century Workforce
Selena, one strategy that authors are given to help with crafting their message is to visualize that one person they are writing to. Describe for us the ideal reader you were thinking of when you wrote Pushback.
Selena, to some, the term Pushback may sound a little combative and therefore have a negative connotation. Give us your definition of pushback and share a few examples of some “pushback scenarios.”
I love the fact that you did your own research for this book by interviewing what you call “a new set of 20 women leaders in the top echelons of their fields.” As you analyzed your data, what was the most shocking thing that you learned from this experience?
Selena, it is apparent that women struggle with pushing back, even today when there are more of us who are educated, more of us in the work force, and more of us as even head of our households. What would you say are the top 3 reasons that women shy away from pushing back?
Selena, for older or more seasoned women who say, I am sorry, I am just not going to risk negotiating or advocating for myself given today’s climate, what would you say are the consequences of such a decision?
Selena, you say that “One of the best investments you’ll make in your career is spending time learning a reliable and effective system for negotiation. As you build your skills and learn the art of negotiating, you’ll begin to see it not just a one-time or occasional (and somehow mysterious) transaction but an everyday necessity.” So, in the book, you give us a four-step model of negotiation. Please take your time and breakdown those four steps for us.
You provide an assessment in the book that can help women pinpoint the areas of strength and identify their weaker areas. Give us an example of how a woman would use this information to become better at asking for and standing up for what she wants.
Selena, as I was reading your book, I immediately thought about Sheryl Sandberg, the COO of Facebook and how she states that women hold themselves back by lowering our expectations of what we can achieve. And, then, as I read on, lo and behold, you actually talk about the speech she gave in which she urged women to “go get it” rather than waiting for permission. Why is it so important for young women who are just entering the workplace to possess the pushback kind of mindset?
Selena, you have registered for my English 101 class, and your first assignment is to write a persuasive essay. This is your writing prompt: This is a great time to elect a qualified woman for the presidency of the United States because…..
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You are investing in your personal transformation this year!
What do I mean by that?
Now, when you hear the term invest, you may immediately think about money, stocks, & dividends; and yes, money is a necessary component of your investment. But, in this case I want you to think of your investment in terms of devoting your time, effort, and energy to a particular undertaking with the expectation of a worthwhile result. The particular undertaking that will be your focus this year is your own personal transformation.
When something is transforming, it is changing in composition & structure.
When something is transforming, it is changing in its outward form or appearance.
And finally, when something is transforming it is changing in character or condition.
So, the reason you are going to have to devote your time, effort, and energy to your transformation is that transformation is a process that never ends.
Think about it:
If you have decided to not only lose weight but to make healthier food choices & exercise, you are going to have to commit to that for the rest of your life to maintain your results. If you decide that you are going to obtain financial freedom, you are going to have to operate in the principles that will secure your freedom.
In the same way, your personal transformation is going to come from the renewing of your mind. When you renew, you make it new again. When you renew, you restore, and before you know it, you find yourself unstuck.
Those things that used to trip you up, don’t trip you up anymore. Those situations that used to baffle you don’t baffle you anymore.
You even find that you are more capable of discerning people and situations much better than you did before. It’s all because you invested in your transformation.
Remy Chausse Reveals The Keys on Books That Transform
On January 9th, I had the privilege of having an engaging conversation with Remy Chausse, author of the national bestseller Living Life As An Exclamation Point! She provided strategies that I am sure you will find helpful in your transformation process.
Listen to the interview now and share any insights you gained from the interview below. If you would like to download the show from iTunes, click here.
Remy, as I read this book, I really appreciated how you welcomed us into your life by sharing so many of your personal experiences. Tell us about a time when you were betrayed and how you were able to use that experience to “strengthen what you stand for” and make what you call “an appropriate life policy” to keep you from getting into that situation again.
Remy, your book is entitled Living Life As An Exclamation Point which immediately inspired me to read it. Do we experience exclamation points as they randomly come to us or do we consciously create them?
Remy, I have to admit that I would really love to talk to you about chapter 1, Overcoming Invalidation, for the rest of this show. It was just that revelatory for me. On page 21, you say: “Everyone experiences invalidation sometimes. It’s the thing that creeps into your life and steals your exclamation points.” Remy, how do we know when we are having a close encounter with invalidation?
Now once we recognize that we are in the grip of invalidation, how do we maneuver our way out?
Remy, this time last year Optimistic Olivia wrote her goals, posted her bathroom mirror & recited them every morning, and she even created a vision board. Unfortunately, by the end of March 2012, she found herself getting distracted and losing steam. What would you advise Olivia to do differently this year so that 2013 is more productive, prosperous, and fulfilling?
One of the most fascinating concepts in your book is the Inner Board of Directors. Please breakdown the “who, what, where, when, and why” of this board for us.
Finally, Remy, it is apparent that you are an amazing coach based upon how you guide the reader through the process of living life as an exclamation point.
Since today’s show is entitled Keys to Getting Unstuck in the New Year, please share with us the top 3 keys to getting unstuck that everyone listening can apply as soon as this show ends.
Remy, what kind of people do you enjoy working with and what kind of products and services do you provide? (Also share your special offer for the listeners.)
Remy’s Complimentary Offer
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Join Us on January 24th from 11-11:45 a.m. (EST)
Join us on January 24thth at 11a.m. (EST) when Sherrin Ross Ingram, author of Wealth Mentality: Program Yourself to Get and Keep the Wealth You Want,will teach us what it really takes to achieve our money goals faster and easierthan we ever imagined. You can check out the book in advance at www.wealthmentality.com. See you then!
Transformation is a process, a process that takes work.
It is not the product of coincidence or happenstance. When you make a conscious decision to walk according to the purpose for which you have been called, it takes constant commitment, daily perseverance, and guts.
According to Dr. Sylvia Lafair, author of Gutsy: How Women Leaders Make Change, you must be willing to–
Observe:Look at where you were and where you are as a woman, so you can make the most creative and healthy choices for what you need and where you want to go.
Understand: Explore your personal journey and place yourself, along with your ancestors, on the journey’s path so you can stand on the shoulders of the past rather than continue to wallow in it.
Transform: Change both the family and cultural patterns that may have worked for eons, but don’t work in this new century where the challenges are fast and furious.
This process is called the OUT Technique and Dr. Lafair believes it to be the way that we can “be smarter and faster in making decisions and solving problems” and thereby evolve into effective leaders.
The Enlightening Discussion
Today, I had the opportunity to speak with Dr. Sylvia Lafair about the OUT Technique that was mentioned above. What an informative, engaging discussion it was. I asked Sylvia the following questions:
Sylvia, let me first say that your writing style is magnetic. The introduction was extremely powerful, thought-provoking, and it just tugged at my heart strings. Without telling everyone what the intro is about, what made you decide to be so transparent about your own personal experience right at the very beginning?
Sylvia, what was the problem that you observed that women in business were having that inspired you to write this book?
I absolutely love the way you break your book into three major parts based upon your OUT Technique. Would you walk us through the OUT Technique and perhaps, give us an example of how it helped a client of yours?
Sylvia, the first part of your book, as you mentioned, teaches us to observe. In this section, you really made me analyze what I am projecting to my daughter about what it means to be a girl, and then what it means to be a woman in this 21st century. What are some of the beliefs and stereotypes that we attach to gender that we must be mindful to reject as we rear our daughters and even our sons?
In part two of your book, you say “Now it’s time to start clarifying what contributed to your own personal life report card and how the patterns of the past have created so much of the light and shadow of who you are.” Sylvia, this is a tremendous feat. How do we effectively dig into our past and use that information to help us become better leaders?
Sylvia, part 3 leads us directly to what this show is all about–training that transforms one leader at a time. What specific steps must we take to ensure that transformation is constant in our lives and that we are always moving to higher and higher levels as leaders?
Sylvia, I am sure that someone listening right now would love to work with you. What kinds of programs, products, or services do you have available for those who want more of this amazing training?
Other questions came up as we talked and I learned so much! So, are you ready to do the work? Don’t answer that until you listen to the show!
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